Natasha Sutherland Writes Book about Life with Steve Hofmeyr
Natasha Sutherland ex-wife of Steve Hofmeyr has written a book called Bittersoet (Bittersweet) about her life during and after her marriage.
She tells Rapport.co.za, that she wrote the book for other wronged partners in a relationships, not to take revenge on her soon to be ex-husband.
She says it’s not a tell-all book about Steve Hofmeyr, although an excerpt from the biography published in You magazine implied that Natasha was physically abused.
Natasha now however says the quote was printed out of context and denies that she was ever physically abused by her husband.
According to Rapport.co.za, Natasha refers to Steve as Mr Y and his new girlfriend Janine as Ms X for some unknown reason.
Despite writing about their marriage, Natasha claims to still love Steve – as the father of her children. She says he is brilliant at doing his work and deserves all the adoration and support from his fans
She tells Rapport.co.za that althought their divorce has not yet been finalished, she removed Hofmeyr from her name, although her sons will still proudly carry their father’s surname.
Natasha ends off by saying she has moved on and is at the start of a new relationship with a pilot.
She states that it is time to put aside her victim status and have taken responsibility for her part in creating her situation.
17 Responses to “Natasha Sutherland Writes Book about Life with Steve Hofmeyr”
By petro woest on Jun 7, 2009 | Reply
sterkte natasha jy en jou seuns bly in ons
gebede.
By Roelien on Jun 11, 2009 | Reply
Hi Natasha
Wel ek was in die selfde boot as jy so jaar terug. Maar die verskil tussen ons twee is dat ek nogsteeds by my man bly. Ek het drie oulik pragtige kinders en ek doen dit vir hulle. Maar soms sit ek en dink wat van my hoekom moet ek seer kry. Want ja dit is die grootste pyn wat n vrou kan deurmaak. En dit maak nogsteeds seer ek dink net daaraan dan huil ek. En dan kyk ek vir my kinders en dan weet ek, mamma doen dit vir julle. Moet my nie verkeerd verstaan nie ek is nog lief vir my man maar die idea dat hy by n ander vrou was maak my siek. Hoekom vra ek altyd vir myself het ek nie vir hom als gegee wat hy nodig gehad het nie. Is dit hoekom hy dit op n ander plek gesoek het. Is dit ek dit is wat ek nie weet nie. Dit laat my voel of ek nie goed genoeg is nie. Die ding is ek het drie kinders wat klein is. Ek dink ek is net bang om alleen te wees. Maar ja hier waar ek nou sit huil ek want dit maak baie seer, hoekom moet ons vroue wat als vir ons mans gee so seer kry. Dit is die vraag wat ek wil he iemand moet vir my antwoord. Hoekom ???? Ek verdien ook net die beste maar op die staduim voel ek nie goed genoeg nie, Die storie op kwela gestraand met Natasha het my laat dink as sy weer bo kan uit kom moet ons almal dit kan doen maar hoe, dit is moeilik want die liefde is nog daar, maar die seer is ook nog daar, Ek hoop en bid maar dat die Here my sal dra deur die tyd, Die 25 ste Junie is dit n jaar terug. Dit is vir my n moeilik maand maar ek sal dit seker maak, En vertroue is daar niks ek vertrou my man glad nie. Wel Sterkte Natasha hoop jy n wonderlike lewe. En al die beste vir jou en jou klein seuntjies.
By Alta on Jun 11, 2009 | Reply
Natasha ek het jou gisteraand op Kwêla gekyk, weet jy jy het jare verder gegroei en is eintlik ‘n vrou na wie ons ander sonder daardie probleme kan opkyk!!!! Mag jy daagliks van krag tot krag gaan – jy het jou destiny gevind. Voorspoed met jou lewe.
Keep on to your Sweet Memories !
By Graadjie on Jun 14, 2009 | Reply
As jy eers besef,jy kan iets suksesvol uitvoer(Bittersoet boek),is tyd jou enigste vyand(besige lewe en kinders grootmaak).Jou lyftaal straal selfvertroue uit(dit kom almal weer sien op TV),soms het mens vrese ,maar ondanks jou vrees moet jy voortgaan.Dis juis wanneer ons val,dat ons die meeste leer.Onthou altyd ,jy is die skepper van jou eie drome en moet dit bly najaag.Mens durf nooit mense of omstandighede die skuld gee vir struikelblokke nie.Hou moed ,behou jou deursettingsvermoe en optimisme dit bepaal jou suskses.
Somtyds is dit die irretasie wat die perfekte perel vorm,in die oester.
n Mens se ware aard is dit wat aan hom toegeskryf word in die gedagtes van ander mense op grond van respek of spontane liefde.Glo my daar is baie,baie mense vandg wat die grootste respek het vir die wyse waarop jy die situasie hanteer het en daar om die liefde vir jou menswees waardeer.JY IS DIE WENNER!
Jy het seker ook al gehoor:
“Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass,it’s about learning to dance in the rain” and
I’m so proud to see you just did that!Remember,you are never given a wish without being given the power to make it come true.So,jou nuwe wonderlike uit die hart telent “skryf”,wat uit diepste seer gebreek het ,en soos n nuwe blom staan en pruik,is n wens om weer heel te word ,moet dit nie nou onder n maatemmer gaan wegsteek nie,dit is dalk jou grootste nuwe fond.
Mag al jou drome en wens waar word.Mag jy soveel nuwe dinge beleef en moet nie bang wees weer vir liefde nie,GLO IN LIEFDE,WANT LIEFDE OORWIN ALLES.
By abrie senekal on Jun 14, 2009 | Reply
Hi Natasha
Waar kan ons jou boek vir ‘n motiverings praatjie te Robertson in die Wes Kaap?
Abrie Senekal
By Abigail Abrahams on Jun 15, 2009 | Reply
Abrie,
Natasha het haar eie website by http://www.bittersoetboek.co.za/. Jy kan vir haar daar a boodskap los of vir haar e-pos stuur.
By johan on Jun 15, 2009 | Reply
EK HET OOK DIE PROGRAM OP TV GESIEN EN GROOT,BAIE GROOT RESPEK VIR NATASHA GEKRY.
SY IS NIE NET FLIPPEN AANTREKLIK NIE MAAR OOK INTELLIGENT WAT HAAR WOORD GOED KAN DOEN.
EK PRAAT NIE STEVE SE OPTREDE GOED NIE MAAR HET N GROOT PROBLEEM MET JONG AANTREKLIKE GOED BEDEELDE VROUE WAT VOOR STEVE GAAN LE EN HOM BLATANT UITLOK EN NIE SNARS OMGEE WIE GAAN SEER KRY NIE. HOEVEEL MANS IS INSTAAT OM DIE VERSOEKINGS TE WEERSTAAN.DIS VREK MOEILIK!!!IS AL WAT EK AS MAN KAN SE.ONS MANS VAL NIE SOMMER VIR ENIGE VROU NIE,MAAR MAGTIG MAN,DIE VROUENS WAT STEVE SE LYF SOEK IS VAN DAARDIE.JA HOE SOU EK SE,JULLE WEET WAT EK BEDOEL.
By Sonja on Jun 26, 2009 | Reply
Ek het die boek Bittersoet deur Natasha Sutherland klaar. Die boek is uit haar hart uitgeskryf: vol waarhede, humor, heimwee, hartseer, trane en blydskap. Dit eindig af met ‘n vredesboodskap dat liefde alles oorheers. Die is ‘n storie wat jy nie kan neersit tot die laaste woord op die laaste bladsy gelees is nie.
By Bonakele on Jul 20, 2009 | Reply
you are such an inspiration. i am so glad you have decided to leave steve for he does not see your worth. is it not because you are more inteliggent than he is; he is actually a fool, but anyway less of the idiot; small minds discuss people and great minds discuss ideas. thanks for allowing him to see his children afterall he is their father nomatter what; this only shows the value you have. May the pilot fly with you to a place you have never been before and enjoy your kissing
By Erika on Jul 27, 2009 | Reply
Ek kon “Bittersoet” nie neersit tot ek klaar gelees het nie.Ek kan dit vir enige persoon aanbeveel om te lees.Ek gaan deur dieselfde situasie,geweldige ontnugtering,hartseer en pyn. My “soen” het toe ook voete van klei en het my uit my nate geskok. “Bittersoet” gee mens perspektief en laat jou besef jy kan opstaan en aangaan.Geloof hou ons bo as dit vir jou voel jy is onder in die donker.
By Janna on Aug 9, 2009 | Reply
Once again I say you go girl,it seems my comments were not showed the previous ones Dont know why
Love Janna
By Janna on Aug 9, 2009 | Reply
I am having a problem,with 3G
I salute you for being a woman’s champion,what is it about these charming good looking things that makes us lose all sense of sanity!!they break down our self esteem,and all in the name of what they want,no not a man hater!!just going through such a hectic court story,too much to explain!!Why cos I got caught in the Web of deceit,by a beautiful man,and I can assure you I am paying dearly with my childrens lives.fighting a custody battle of note but have to deal with his lies too
love Janna
By annetjie on Aug 11, 2009 | Reply
Hi natasha ek is in jou bootjie behalwe dat
my man al vier jaar met sy eks n verhouding het.
Hoe gemaak sy was dan kwansuis die een wat hom al die hel gegee het, met elke tweede man geslaap het. Ek het nog net my oorlede man en hom gehad, wat wil hy meer hê.Ek kry jou jammer
want ek wil haar hare gaan uittrek. Hy het by my oorlede man se vriende van my gehoor en my op my seer tyd ontmoet. Op die stadium was ek vatbaar vir enigiemand wat my kon vertroos en
verstaan. Hy het die seer punte gesien en die kans gevat. Die ander persoon gebruik hom net want sy het nog nooit gewerk nie en kan nie vir haar self sorg nie.(Sy was Vernon Koekemoer se koekie). Ek weet nie hoeveel vrouens se hare sou jy moes uittrek nie. Ek is trots op jou en kyk op na jou om nie sulke goed aan te vang nie. Daarom gaan ek n punt daarvan maak om jou boek te lees. EN HOU MY Oë
OP DIE HERE!!!
By Lisa Van Wyk on Aug 16, 2009 | Reply
Natasha…… i can’t put your book down!! U r such an amazing “proudly SA woman”. So glad u have been ‘Set free’…… May God bless u with the ‘happily eva after’ u deserve!!
Lisa Van Wyk
By Bianca on Sep 11, 2009 | Reply
Hi Natasha,
I am not as such a person much into celeb life, like Steve’s, although me and my family lived in Geoge (I’m German speaking by the way). We saw him in one show and bought the “pampoen C.D.”
After 7 years down in S.A. we moved back to Nam.(Windhoek)/ Quite a long story. Co-incidentally, I have met Mr. Y a couple of times, because my sister in law is very much involved in the yearly Miss Nam. Me and my hubby have seen and met him at such occasions.
Namibia is small in terms of people. We will be back here in November exactly one year. And it has been great. SA has offered us good opportunities 8 years ago, but unfortunately a lot of things did not turn out the way we thought. We went through a tremendous learning and life experience and when I read your book (bought it at a local book store when my husband and me did an okavango trip – 2 weeks ago – and simply wonderful) I could relate to many experiences you shared in your book). What is so amazing, I seldomly have found or experienced people sharing some of my dreams, relating to my positive outlooks and even sharing my daily fixes, which are, my kids (as in your book & story), my beautiful garden, my hubby, my home. I am thrilled at the comments of people that this, our home here is so homely. Also for the first time I have really bonded with my…home. With the house back in George, which was on the outskirsts (smallholding) and big, I could somehow not bond. So many things have happened, but we have had hardship down in George. So much, that my husband was a totally different person and although we have loved each other for the past 13 years, he was almost like a stranger. I was torn into two parts, did not know which way to turn to, although I prayed, but tough if you are a very impatient person. And have to learn to wait, as the right way will progress. Sometimes, I was in my room and simply cried, switched my cellphone off (I was one of the best property agents, according to the banks and boards). I had an extremely bad conscience by switching the phone off and yet answered all the messages out of business and responsibility afterwards. You still feel baaaad by creating excuses. You might understand. And yet I was lost, felt guilty, had to cope and “not cope” in terms of hiding away. I was sad, vulnerable and left alone. My husband could not communicate with me on an “equilibrium” level. I had lost 2 people to cancer, beautiful women of my age (37 now and 35 at that stage), and I have always been a positive person, fun loving, inspiring people, etc. How do you deal with these things if nothing seems positive, nor anyone else, when you really, really need it, can assist yourself in thinking positive???
God is the only way and I have since I have been 15 years of age, prayed intensly, believed intensly, although you still have to work through thouse patches, praying and all. In the end, by pursuing and recognising those blessed parts in one’s life (like the children, love and health), pursuing through the hardships, although not knowing what waits at the end of the tunnel, helped me. You know, I have always realized that the light is shining at the end of the tunnel and that I had made it to there. Again, the last time it seemed endless. As if the road was just not going to end, but because of the many times in the past that things had changed to the good and positive and the solutions were there and present, I had to believe that I had to carry on moving, believing, and when I had those down times, to quickly stand up again. It worked, as always, althoug tougher, longer and may be harder, it worked, and everytime you turn out to be a stronger person. Amazing!!!!
Natasha, I am also very much and deeply in touch. Not just saying so. But, I feel connected all the time. Many people tell you so probably, but I would love to meet you sometime. Obviously, only if in anyway possible. Perhaps we could e-mail and you could check out if this is not a general thing of people writing to you and telling you about all these things, not knowing where to start. How does one do this? Difficult, I suppose.
I am looking into people in what I experienced in people. But, sadly, many that claim to be christians cannot and do not know how to share. I am not judging, but there was one part in your book, like many others that I could instantly relate to. It told the story of your very best friend, Asjas in the book. You spoke of her inner beauty. Having been a very successful business lady, having been recognised in terms of that by others because of her remarkable personality and yet, she remained humble, although she could have led an extravagant life filled with wealth and eveerything else that goes with it. She decided to live humbly without extravagancy and simply with happiness and the bare necessities, of course her family concluding all of it.
You seldomly find such people, such extra-ordinary people in terms of being humble, normal and to whom life is about loving and living. That was what pointed that part in your book out to me. You were inspired by her and grateful to have her in your life and by reading that, I just thought, how amazing. That is what I have found, experienced and still want to experience in people, because it is not replaceable with anything else.
I suppose I cannot accept an answer. You probably have 1000 e-mails a day, if not more. There would be so much more to share, if possible. But if not, I wish you all the happiness in the world with your kids and your new love. Enjoy it to bits, and cherish all the moments as you have.
Oh yes, and should you perhaps decide to answer and we could share some happenings, I have had a similar past. That is why, it all seemed so familiar. And as you, I wanted that some…last kiss. It was not worth it. He was beautiful, stunning and I was…..not mentionable.
I have the most beautiful daughter, now aged 13. A really gorgeous girl. I was 5 months pregnant when I had to leave and move on. 23 years old. But, if I carry on, it will be a long night. I’d love to share, perhaps e-mail you photies. I think you’d approve. I really now have one of the most adorable families and only through believing and likewise moving on (3 kids, 10 – boy, 11 – girl – , 13, my baby that was three months old when I had been divorced, had to get divorced because of another woman and by praise met my husband when the divorce was through and my baby was three months old. Even up to today, I dream. Still sometimes unbelievable. You know, when I was pregnant with my daughter, everyone knew about his affair and he had confused me, tried me to believe something else. I was totally emotional and confused. H
By Alison Puchert on Oct 20, 2009 | Reply
Dear Natasha, I have read your book ‘Bittersweet” and although it is really not a book for a 62 year old women married for 42 years, I found it a very inspiring account on your life. I am leanding my book out to young friends who have recently been divoiced and also to others who are battling with the situation of a divoiced women. What you wrote in your book is so true and can only encourage women who find themselves in a dark place after a divoice. Your chapter on your children is put over as a very positive and encouraging attitude. I feel that this book should be on the shelf of every divoice councellor and should be recommended to not only women but to men also who are battling to coup with divoice.
Best Regards Alison, Claremont Cape Town. (Excuse the spelling mistakes!!)
By mariska on Jun 14, 2010 | Reply
hi Natasha, ek moet ‘n damestee reel vir ons gemeente in september en sal graag jou as gasspreker wil he, ek dink daar is soveel stukkende vroue in en om ons elke dag, ek het self deur so iets gegaan en weet van die seer, so jaar gelede het die Here op my hart gele om met vroue te werk en te deel wat so stukkend is, maak nie saak of dit deur ‘n huwelik of molistering ens is nie, dit gaan oor die seer in hul binneste en hoe ons kan help om hulle helingsproses beter te maak. indien ek jou kan gebruik wat is die kostes daaromtrent en hoe presies moet ek te werk gaan? hoop jy kan my help……
groete Mariska