Lets talk about sex
Two different situations had me thinking about my approach to sex.
First, Friday night’s episode of Man on Sabc 3 left me feeling a bit disappointed about the men.
Pretty much like Henri’s date felt after their date at Charlie’s Bakery…
For those who don’t know, Henri is gay and dated a guy who wanted to get to know him better before getting physical.
Such a change from the rest of the men and women on that show who seemed to be on the hunt for sex all the time.
Is the club scene really just a jungle of men and women prowling for sex?
Then today I walked into a conversation (in my office, though I did not comment) where three colleagues were discussing a quick HIV test one could do at home.
Mind you all three are in long term relationships.
I thought they were being unrealistic as no man I’ve ever dated asked my HIV status. None brought up contraception, and very few even carried condoms (I do).
Anyway, even if the situation arose, doing an HIV test just before hitting the sheets makes no sense to me.
What if the result is wrong? An HIV test would have to be done by a medical professional and the relationship would have to be monogomous after the test if I’m to feel safe.
I prefer having protected sex anyway as HIV isn’t the only STI and an unplanned pregnancy is not an option.
So while I’m not against casual sex, prowling for it seems so – - ugly. And making someone do an HIV test minutes before having sex is just crazy.
But that’s just my opinion.
One Response to “Lets talk about sex”
By Johnny on Feb 18, 2010 | Reply
I’m also not against casual sex nor prowling for it. But making someone do an HIV test minutes before having sex IS crazy and immorally disrepectful.
Abigail, the worst is that the few women I did manage to sleep with, did not really care whether I condomised. When I ask them to help me fit it on, they down right refused asif it was my job and the condom had nothing to do with them. Scary isn’t it?
Oh by the way, the guys in MAN look like the typical ‘wham bam’ kind. There is no respect for women in their demeanor, at all.
Well, I don’t blame them either because a woman’s punani doesn’t belong to her really. It belongs to any man who chooses to have it or whom she chooses to give. Women are just minders of their punanis. When a man gets married, he marries the punani instead of the woman. When he says my wife, he means my punani. People can insult her, moer her or do whatever but the moment they mess with the sacred punani, he gets crazy mad.
Religious people make us believe they have the interest of the woman at heart when they make her wear a burka or long dress and speak of chastity, (only for the women) yet all they are worried about is the punani. That no other man must see or smell it but we all know where it is and what it looks like.
Marriage is just a licence for a man to legally own the punani. Because it is attached to the woman, the assumption is that the woman belongs to him, which gives him the right to abuse her (legally), and still enjoy it with no repurcussions.
Women have been so conditioned, programmed and brainwashed into believing that all men’s obsession of the punani is justified and a right, that they cannot see past their own empowerment.