Archive for November, 2010
Tuesday, November 30th, 2010
My Mitchell’s Plain cousin got married on Saturday.
Fortunately the forest wedding idea had been shelved somewhere along the line, for a ceremony and reception at a beautiful hotel in Claremont.
“We grew up in Claremont and played with children of all the races,” my aunty likes to remind us.
“Before they moved us to Westridge.”
The wedding went according to plan on the day. And the wedding party looked happy and relaxed.
But only days before…
My cousin wanted her dad to walk her down the aisle. But he wouldn’t attend without his young girlfriend. Barely older than my cousin!
“Over my dead body,” my aunty shouted “will that homewrecker be at my daughter’s wedding.”
See, my Mitchell’s Plain aunty’s husband left her for this young chick and is currently (three years in total) shacking up with her in her parents backyard – in Lost City, Mitchell’s Plain.
My Mitchell’s Plain aunty is in denial and won’t agree to a divorce.
“God doesn’t sanction divorce.” and “I made a vow on our wedding day,” is her usual argument. “Until death us do past.”
She believes her husband will come to his senses…eventually.
A compromise was eventually reached with the girlfriend.
The girlfriend would not sit at the main table, but rather with some of the groom’s colleagues.
(I wonder if the groom has any idea that he just married into a coloured mafia type family.)
Then we all held our collective breaths when it was time for the couple’s first dance.
The DJ who had no idea about the family dynamics involved, invited the couple’s parents to join them on the dance floor.
My uncle looked stunned and stood motionless. Actually, I think time might have frozen for a few seconds. My aunty looked like she was headed straight for him and the girlfriend was halfway out of her chair.
My sister, brilliant woman that she is, shoved my father into my aunty’s path.
So my mother danced the parents’ dance with her brother-in-law and my dad with my Mitchell’s Plain aunty.
My cousin danced with her new husband, unaware of the drama that nearly unfolded.
When it was time for the bride to throw the bouquet, I backed out the room.
“Where’s Abby?” was the last thing I heard.
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Monday, November 29th, 2010
With thanks to tvsa.co.za
Wednesday, 1 December 2010
Episode 2363
The guys are in trouble – they can’t find a place to stay. Maria comes to the rescue. How will Bernard react to the relationship between his dad and Gita?
Herman makes a remark about Pieter to Annelie. Xander and Sue-Anne’s relationship goes through a change.
Thursday, 2 December 2010
Episode 2364
Hilda is on a war path and Sanjay sees trouble during her interview. Both Kabelo and Tshepiso are unsure about the next step.
Zinzi is not happy with her dance partner. How will Vanessa react when she hears that Xander has a court date for their divorce?
Friday, 3 December 2010
Episode 2365
How will Bernard react when Gita tries to reach out to him? Hans’ attitude towards Aggie changes drastically.
Zinzi is looking for a new dance partner. Something happens that can put Vanessa out of the Salsa competition.
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Monday, 6 December 2010
Episode 2366
It’s the day of the Salsa competition … who will the winners be? How will the friends react when they find out that Diederik and Clara also entered the competition?
Annelie makes a decision regarding Herman. Vince tries to convince Xander to attend the competition but what will Xander do when he sees Vanessa dance?
Tuesday, 7 December 2010
Episode 2367
Will Annelie fall for Herman’s excuses? Isabelle gets an anonymous phonecall with a warning to be careful.
Lukas receives a warning at T&T. Xander breaks-up with Sue-Anne but what will he say about Vanessa’s dancing?
Wednesday, 8 December 2010
Episode 2368
Everyone hears what happened between Xander and Vanessa. Hans has a good explanation when Isabelle asks him something about the Antwerpen Expo’s brochure.
Clara receives an unsettling phonecall.
Thursday, 9 December 2010
Episode 2369
Clara suddenly needs to go to Bucharest.
Charmaine receives an unsettling letter from Christelle. The guys feel guilty when they see what happened in their flat. Xander is starting to make a decision about his future.
Friday, 10 December 2010
Episode 2370
Errol receives his report and hears he has a bursary. How does Altus feel about Diederik who wants to handle a project on his own?
Sanjay tries to ask Felicity on a date with a lot of hiccups. Tim gets a phoencall that catches him off-guard.
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Monday, 13 December 2010
Episode 2371
Vince has to hear that the Deli’s flowers are not up to standard. Tshepiso’s work leads to a physical fight.
Felicity doesn’t realise what Sanjay’s intentions are during a dinner. Aggie wonders about Hans, but he has an explanation.
Tuesday, 14 December 2010
Episode 2372
The wedding plans are giving Diederick a headache. Will Tshepiso forgive Kabelo for his behaviour?
Will Tim’s Singapore plans sour his relationship with Gita? Diederik’s suggestions are not good enough.
How will Hans react when he hears what Aggie is doing?
Wednesday, 15 December 2010
Episode 2373
Matrone and Charmaine are worried about Tannie Schoeman’s health. Diederik is struggling with his difficult client.
Will Aggie get a chance to tell Isabelle about her fears? Gita is torn about Tim’s Singapore plans.
Thursday, 16 December 2010
Episode 2374
Diederik is shocked when he hears what Marietjie is planning. Tim is unsure about his plans.
Aggie tells Ryno about an odd phonecall and more info on Hans.
Pistols are drawn and a shot is fired.
Friday, 17 December 2010
Episode 2375
Is somebody hurt during the shooting?
Ounooi makes life difficult for Lukas. Matrone sees something unsettling about tannie Schoeman.
Altus warns Diederik to stay within his budget. Neville is upset about Xander’s career choice.
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Monday, 20 December 2010
Episode 2376
Vince confronts Bonita about the flowers she should have brought.
Will Sanjay and Felicity admit that they have the hots for each other?
Gita gives Tim an answer regarding his Singapore request. Kabelo gets himself into a fight.
Tuesday, 21 December 2010
Episode 2377
Matrone is worried when Tannie Schoeman doesn’t open the door. Xander decides on office space. Diederik succeeds and Marietjie listens to him.
Zinzi is upset about Gita’s decision and confronts her. How will Sanjay and Felicity’s date go?
Wednesday, 22 December 2010
Episode 2378
Felicity comes to Diederik’s rescue. How will Herman react when he discovers Ounooi?
Tannie Schoeman looks better but Matrone is not convinced when she does something unusual.
San-Mari tells Bernard what she thinks about his attitude.
Thursday, 23 December 2010
Episode 2379
Everybody makes plans for Christmas. Diederik gets something from Romania.
Aggie’s notes cause a disappointment with Felicity. Diederik is horrified when he hears Marietjie has new plans. Gita fix the issues with Zinzi.
Friday, 24 December 2010
Episode 2380
The young ones don’t have a cook for their Christmas Eve dinner. An old friend of Tshepiso’s arrives in Hillside.
How will Bernard behave in front of Gita and Tim at the dinner? Tannie Schoeman doesn’t have a good Christmas Eve.
Sanjay makes sure that the misunderstanding with Felicity is sorted out.
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Monday, 27 December 2010
Episode 2381
Sanjay and Felicity want to talk … but they will find each other? San-Mari is looking for a new flat mate.
Diederik struggles with the wedding arrangements. Tannie Schoeman gives nothing away when Matrone asks about her health.
Tuesday, 28 December 2010
Episode 2382
Gita makes a strange attempt to make peace. Oubaas and Maria try to find out what is going on with Tannie Schoeman.
Marietjie wants to change everything, and this time Diederik treats het correctly. Tsepido invites Kabelo to the theater, but will he understand the play?
Wednesday, 29 December 2010
Episode 2383
The youngsters are making plans for New Year’s Eve. Tshepiso do not think it went well at the theatre with Kabelo.
Matrone realises what was wrong with Tannie Schoeman. Diederik is afraid that he might lose his job. Errol confronts Bonita about her ingratitude.
Thursday, 30 December 2010
Episode 2384
Vanessa is skeptical that Diederik believes Marietjie is eating out of his hand. Bonita refuses to follow Gita’s instructions.
How will Kabelo feel when Tshepiso goes out with another friend? Felicity and Sanjay go out and something wonderful happens.
Friday, 31 December 2010
Episode 2385
Marietjie wants Diederik to make personal decisions with her. The youngsters plan their outfits (what is supposed to propose a song) for tonight’s party.
How will Bernard handles the dinner with Tim and Gita? Xander what he will approach in the New Year?
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Thursday, November 25th, 2010
My latest obsession is cognitive behavioural psychology.
It started when I was having a tough time at work a while ago. I was tired of hearing my own inner voice which can become a bit of a nag sometimes.
I thought of going to see a therapist but first wanted to do research on what to expect.
Yep…have cellphone. Will Google just about anything.
There was so much information online, I thought “bugger the therapist”.
It would anyway eat away at my Medical aid savings account. Plus I could save my service provider money. Even though I spend a small fortune every month and have nothing to show for it.
Kind of like playing to Lotto.
(I should Google advice on how not to digress in a blog post!)
Back to the therapist…
I pictured laying on a couch while conjuring up reasons to blame my mother. But that wasn’t for me.
My poor mother deserves better.
Anyway, my search led me to discover Psychology Today.
OMW! It’s a neurotic person’s dream come true. (Check it out – not that I’m calling anyone else neurotic.)
There’s seven, eight or nine steps to cure almost anything!
I haven’t yet come across a cure for self-diagnosing though.
My goal was to find a way to move past the anger I was feeling.
CBT absolutely struck a chord with me. It gives the power to me to change what I feel needs changing.
It forces me to take responsibility for my own feelings, not allowing another person to own a space in my head.
And even with a therapist, the sessions are not limitless like other therapy. So I might still consider going to see one.
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Tuesday, November 23rd, 2010
If you didn’t already think I was ever so slightly weird, this post might pursuade you in that direction.
It all started on a drizzly Saturday morning. Just this past Saturday, actually.
My mother and sister, with niece and nephew in tow, ended up at my flat for a very quick visit.
“Mum,” I said, after looking at my patio door, “can you please ask Bev to come clean my flat next Tuesday?”
My mother and sister looked at me as if I had asked them for some roast beef. (I’m still very much vegetarian, in case you’re wondering.)
I’m not sure if there is a name for my particular phobia yet. The fear of having a cleaning lady.
Think that’s weird yet?
So after only half an hour Bev, the cleaning lady, called to confirm.
That was kind of fast, I thought.
With arrangements made, I tried to tidy up as best I could. So she wouldn’t think too badly of my housekeeping skills.
This morning she arrived at 7.30am while I was getting ready for work. We had arranged that she would arrive at 8.00am.
I took a quick glance around the living room to see if it was decent for company. (It wasn’t.)
I picked up sexy strappy sandals and workout clothes (don’t ask) from the couch.
“Can I get you some coffee?” I tried to distract her. All the while trying to apply make-up.
She looked like she just wanted to start cleaning.
“What time will you be home,” she wanted to know.
I told her around 5pm.
She looked around the flat and said, “I’ll probably still be here that time.”
Good grief! I have a 4 roomed flat!
Needless to say, I arrived at work rather early today.
And I came home to a spotlessly clean flat.
Only problem is…I feel displaced. It feels like I have to get used to my space all over again.
Very weird…I told you…
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Monday, November 22nd, 2010
What next? People actually believe Facebook can ruin a marriage/relationship?
Ironically, I read this article on Facebook!
Admittedly Facebook is a convenient tool if you are willing to risk your relationship. Or if you are looking to cheat.
I remember back in the day when IRC was the devil itself.
And I remember getting chatted up by married men claiming everything from being in an open relationship to being with their wives out of pity.
But that wasn’t only on the internet.
Not my problem, I would say.
Online and offline, my morals and values are exactly the same.
Most other people I believe, are the same.
If you are open to other relationships, Facebook and the internet will make it easier. It won’t force you to behave outside your character.
There is such a thing as over sharing on Facebook though. And changing your relationship status every week is just weird to me. If you’re older than 18, anyway.
Mind you, a friend of mine changed his relationship status from married to it’s complicated recently.
A few months before I put on my status that I was on leave. Next thing I got an invite for coffee.
My rule is simple. If we are not blood relatives, no coffee with married men without their wives. Or if I’m involved in a relationship, without my guy.
In hindsight I feel vindicated. Although I would not have gone anyway.
I’m just old school that way.
Facebook or no Facebook, we make our decisions. We can choose to cross that line or be faithful.
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