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Sunday, March 7th, 2010 |
I read an article in Fairlady questioning whether one has reason to be concerned if your boyfriend or husband’s best friend is female.
And that female is not you!
Which begs the question – can men and women be just friends?
For me the answer isn’t cut and dried. It depends.
I’ve always had male friends, some married and others not and we’ve never crossed any lines.
However, there is usually a context, like we hang out at work or our friendship is based on shared interests like sport, politics or computers.
There’s never a discussion about our intimate relationships, or complaints about partners and no hanging out alone at my flat, or phone calls and SMSes or going to parties without our partners at night.
In other words, there are lines drawn that doesn’t get crossed.
For me it’s easy though. I compartmentalise my life anyway. I don’t socialise with colleagues after work and my home life stays at home. Friends are friends and boyfriends are romantic partners.
If my partner (past and future) should have similar relationships, I would not be concerned.
But if I started feeling doubt, I know there would be reason to be concerned and would say so.
I’m not the jealous type and I trust my instincts.
However even before getting into a relationship, I set boundaries of what is acceptable to me.
And if we are not on the same page about respecting our relationship, there is nothing left to talk about.
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Saturday, March 6th, 2010 |
Things have been a bit hectic in my world lately, so much so that I’ve completely neglected my blog!
And I love blogging so much.
This past week was absolutely, crazy though!
First, I had five UNISA assignments due on Friday 5th March. Eventually I decided to drop one module until next year.
It was either that or have a complete breakdown.
So four assignments went off without incident at various stages during the week.
Work was just as crazy. I can’t remember if I wrote about my meltdown at the office last Friday…
Only two people knew about it and I was self aware enough at the time to mention that my stress was caused by more than just what I was freaking out about.
This week I had three meetings two of which lasted two and a half hours! Mind numbing stuff! Plus a truckload of work to get through.
Next week is performance appraisal time. I told the team manager to set aside half a day for mine as I have a long list to get through. He just laughed.
So on my way to work in the morning there’s this guy…which makes me think I should start dating again.
Maybe that would help relieve some stress, but add a few new ones…
As hectic as things are now, there have been funny moments talking with my walking buddy and yoga and other little glimmers of silver linnings.
Although it might not always seem that way, I never lose sight of the fact that I am one of the fortunate oner, living the life I created.
And I have plenty of choices every day.
Sjoe, and that’s only half the story of my crazy, crazy week!
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Sunday, February 28th, 2010 |
Last weekend 7de Laan was voted the best soapie in the land by viewers. It shows 7de laan fans are th
e most loyal as they actually voted.
I can totally relate…
This last week was extremely busy and stressful for me. I had to come home from work and immediately had to start on UNISA assignments for my Diploma in Information Technology as I have to hand in by Friday 5 March and I still had a few things to do.
I had about a total of 1 hour of tvtime for the week (not good for an admitted tv addict!) – until Thursday, when I reached breaking point.
Then I did what any sane person could do. I turned on my favourite soapie, chilled on the couch for half an hour and got lost in 7de laan’s stories. Friday I did the same thing.
Fortunately there was Paula action and very little storyline involving Gita and San-Mari to spoil the fun, though I could have done with less Vanessa!
None of the other soapies have that effect - I sometimes watch Isidingo and Generations – and they’re just a lot darker than 7de Laan.
The US soapies like Young and the Restless and Bold and the Beautiful don’t even come close – they’re just repetitive and boring most of the time.
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Sunday, February 21st, 2010 |
Believe it or not, Mnet will be auditioning for the 6th season of SA Idols from April this year.
Year after year Idols come up with a controversial ending.
Remember Idols 1 had one of the least talented of the top 5 – Heinz – contestants winning.
Claims of racist/elitist voting patterns also plagued the second season when Anke won.
The third season had the sob story of the apple picker Karin from Grabouw. This story ended with murder and a damaged reputation.
The fourth season Mnet allowed multiple voting via Mxit – appealing to young black voters – unsuprisingly 17 year old Jody from the Cape Flats won.
The fifth season had the most controversial ending when Sasha-Lee was named the winner, but it was later found that she had about 200 000 fewer votes than Jason. So they were declared joint winners.
(You do the Maths.)
Seems like Mnet is as thick-skinned as Julius Malema himself.
This year judge Dave has emigrated, so we’re getting at least one new judge.
For those wishing to become the next tabloid fodder, auditions for the 6th season of SA Idols start in Cape Town on April 6, Durban 17, Joburg 24, PE May 2 and Bloemfontein 8 May.
Idols will be broadcast at some stage after the Soccer World Cup in July.
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Sunday, February 21st, 2010 |
My sister phoned me Thursday to catch up on family gossip.
During the course of the conversation she asked: “…are you friends with Joe* on Facebook?”
“Who?” I asked.
“Stephanie’s* son.”
“Oh,” I replied. “No.”
She went on to explain that Joe, a second cousin had cut ties with the family.
“How do you know this?” I wanted to know.
“Aunty Maxine* told mum.” she said. “She said it was on Facebook.”
Apparently my aunty told my mother that Facebook keeps her in touch with the ‘children’.
I further questioned how my 70+ year old aunty who doesn’t own (nor does she want to own) a computer and who thinks the internet is evil, get access to Facebook.
My sister didn’t know, so while we chatted she logged on to Facebook to investigate.
None of my aunty’s children or grandchildren are friends with Joe, she discovered.
We were baffled.
“Request Joe to add you as a friend,” she told me.
“If I don’t know him, how will he know me,” I reasoned.
So my sister became friends with my second cousin and got the whole story on his wall!
“You better watch what you write on your wall.” I told my sister.
“Aunty Maxi loves to skinder.”
*names have been changed ’cause who knows what will happen to me if my Mitchell’s Plain aunty gets word of this blog.
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